[release-1.31] Multi-slb related bug fixes

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #7432

/assign nilo19

Fix: several bugs related to multiple standard load balancers mode.
1. All endpointslices of a local service should be included in local backend pool updater, instead of only the first endpointslice.
2. In some rare cases, migration from NIC to IP-based LB can be in a middle state where the NIC references are removed, but those IPConfigs in the backend pool are not. In this case, we should manually exclude those IPConfigs from the request body.
3. localServiceOwnsBackendPool should compare the full backend pool name, not just prefix, because two service names can share the same prefix.
4. There is a corner case when the cluster is being updated to multi-slb from classic NIC-based single lb, not from an IP-based cluster. In this case, if the service being reconciled is local, the cloud provider will try to update a NIC pool to IP-based pool direct, which is not allowed. We should skip adding IPs to NIC-based pool in multi-slb mode.
5. There is a bug in ReconcileBackendPools, where we by mistake parse the LB name to use as the backend pool name.

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[coveralls]

coverage: 75.915% (+0.02%) from 75.894%
when pulling 25177df on k8s-infra-cherrypick-robot:cherry-pick-7432-to-release-1.31
into 886cf92 on kubernetes-sigs:release-1.31.

[nilo19]

/kind bug